Heartbreak. It's something no one wants to have to experience, but also something that at one point or another, everyone will. However, although heartbreak can feel as though a million swords are stabbing into your heart from the inside out, it won't last forever. And even though it may feel like it is at the time, it isn't the end of the world. There's no escaping the fact that it will take time to get over such a break-up, but I have some tips that will hopefully at least make it a little easier.
1) Find a creative outlet. Whether you have a passion for writing, dancing, singing, drawing, painting, or any other creative hobby, expressing your emotions through a creative outlet may not make those feelings go away, but it will help give you a sense of closure.
2) Have a night out/in with friends. Surrounding yourself with people who make you happy is always sure to lift your spirit! Some people prefer to mope around alone which can be nice and peaceful, but not all the time. It's healthiest in a time of grief to spend some time by yourself, but you also want to have others to lean on. Take a night out with some friends. You don't need to go anywhere crazy, just to one of your regular hang out places. If you just don't feel up to leaving the house, invite some friends to come to you. After all, it doesn't matter where you are. All that matters is who you're with. Being around people who mean a lot to you will comfort you and maybe even temporarily make you forget about that significant other who broke your heart!
3) Stuff your face! It may not be the healthiest solution- but hey, spoiling yourself with your favorite snacks sure does bring you a sense of relief and happiness!
4) Listen to music. Whether you're listening to sad/angry break-up songs or those with more of an uplifting feel, music is always there for you and it reminds you that you are not alone. Plenty of people have gone through similar events that you have, and they have made it through.
5) I know it's easier said than done, but just try not to think about it. Don't go back and re-read the text messages from him/her. I know you will have the urge to here and there, but that's just a way to break your heart over and over again. As much as it may hurt, try to gather up the courage to hit that "delete" button!
6) Remain civil and mature. It's easy to be bitter after a break up. Although it can be difficult to stay friends after the break up, it isn't impossible. Sure, at first it may feel awkward or hurt a lot. With time it will get easier and if you really want to stay in each others lives, you will be able to get over the tension and remain friends. Just let time do it's trick, and don't give up! Even if they aren't sure about it now, they just might come to realize they miss you and come around in the future!
7) Don't move on too quickly. This isn't exactly a tip to help you get over your ex, but it will prevent you from hurting yourself even more as well as others. Don't put yourself out there thinking that being with someone else will help you get over your previous love. In all honesty, this will not work and it will just make things more difficult for everyone. Never use someone as a rebound- it just isn't right. Be with someone simply because you want to be with them, not because you just want someone to help you get over your feelings for someone else. There's no excuse to use or hurt someone like that. If you do want to be with someone new, I would strongly recommend waiting a while first until all your feelings for your ex have vanished and you have completely gotten over your break-up.
8) Don't do something you are going to regret. It's easy to make silly mistakes when you are heartbroken. You have to learn to remind yourself that going out and doing something crazy or something you would normally be uncomfortable with isn't a solution to your pain. In the long run, it will just hurt you rather than help.
9) Don't be afraid to grieve. If you need to talk to someone about it, don't be ashamed. If you cry, that's perfectly understandable. A broken heart is not easy to mend. Reaching out for help when you need it or crying is NOT a bad thing.
10) Don't give up on love. Don't blame yourself. Don't think there is anything wrong with you. Maybe you're the one in the relationship who made the mistake, but that's okay. Don't beat yourself up over it. Mistakes are meant to be made because we learn from them. Some lessons just have to be learned the hard way, and that's a part of life. If the other person is the one who made the mistake, well then they just simply weren't the right one. If they cheated or intentionally hurt you in any way, it's about time for an upgrade anyway. You just have to remind yourself that you deserve better. It's easy to think you two are meant to be when you are love. But what is meant to last will. If it doesn't, then everything happens for a reason. Kelly Clarkson said it best herself when she sang: "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger". I know the phrase "There are plenty of fish in the sea" may seem cliche, but it's true. At the moment you may not believe that there is anyone else out there who will make you as happy as your ex did, but somewhere in this world of 7 billion people, there is someone who will make you even happier. And it's just a matter of time before you meet. Patience is the key. So don't feel so down; it's only a matter of time before you'll be back on your feet and ready to set off on a new journey with a new special someone! :)
5) I know it's easier said than done, but just try not to think about it. Don't go back and re-read the text messages from him/her. I know you will have the urge to here and there, but that's just a way to break your heart over and over again. As much as it may hurt, try to gather up the courage to hit that "delete" button!
6) Remain civil and mature. It's easy to be bitter after a break up. Although it can be difficult to stay friends after the break up, it isn't impossible. Sure, at first it may feel awkward or hurt a lot. With time it will get easier and if you really want to stay in each others lives, you will be able to get over the tension and remain friends. Just let time do it's trick, and don't give up! Even if they aren't sure about it now, they just might come to realize they miss you and come around in the future!
7) Don't move on too quickly. This isn't exactly a tip to help you get over your ex, but it will prevent you from hurting yourself even more as well as others. Don't put yourself out there thinking that being with someone else will help you get over your previous love. In all honesty, this will not work and it will just make things more difficult for everyone. Never use someone as a rebound- it just isn't right. Be with someone simply because you want to be with them, not because you just want someone to help you get over your feelings for someone else. There's no excuse to use or hurt someone like that. If you do want to be with someone new, I would strongly recommend waiting a while first until all your feelings for your ex have vanished and you have completely gotten over your break-up.
8) Don't do something you are going to regret. It's easy to make silly mistakes when you are heartbroken. You have to learn to remind yourself that going out and doing something crazy or something you would normally be uncomfortable with isn't a solution to your pain. In the long run, it will just hurt you rather than help.
9) Don't be afraid to grieve. If you need to talk to someone about it, don't be ashamed. If you cry, that's perfectly understandable. A broken heart is not easy to mend. Reaching out for help when you need it or crying is NOT a bad thing.
10) Don't give up on love. Don't blame yourself. Don't think there is anything wrong with you. Maybe you're the one in the relationship who made the mistake, but that's okay. Don't beat yourself up over it. Mistakes are meant to be made because we learn from them. Some lessons just have to be learned the hard way, and that's a part of life. If the other person is the one who made the mistake, well then they just simply weren't the right one. If they cheated or intentionally hurt you in any way, it's about time for an upgrade anyway. You just have to remind yourself that you deserve better. It's easy to think you two are meant to be when you are love. But what is meant to last will. If it doesn't, then everything happens for a reason. Kelly Clarkson said it best herself when she sang: "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger". I know the phrase "There are plenty of fish in the sea" may seem cliche, but it's true. At the moment you may not believe that there is anyone else out there who will make you as happy as your ex did, but somewhere in this world of 7 billion people, there is someone who will make you even happier. And it's just a matter of time before you meet. Patience is the key. So don't feel so down; it's only a matter of time before you'll be back on your feet and ready to set off on a new journey with a new special someone! :)
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